Deciphering Dreams

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I often wonder where the mind wanders while I am asleep; to places unfamiliar, with people unheard of, for reasons unknown. As though it’s living another life of its own. Does this mean that we all have a twin personality, one that we can’t forget and one that we never remember? It’s said that around two hours of our night’s sleep is spent dreaming; dreaming of bizarre, extraordinary and sometimes realistic events. Some believe that dreams are meaningless and have no significance to real life, while others have proved that dreams are symbolic expressions of desires residing in the unconscious mind. So, how does one know what to believe? And if dreams are carrier of messages, then my dreams are definitely not appearing to be a good sign.

In 4 of every 5 dreams I have I am either in close contact with death or dead, subsequently with me waking up in panic. I don’t completely believe that dreams mean anything, but since it has been such a recurring dream I thought I’d look it up on google. There I came across a dream dictionary, which suggested a significance behind almost each type of or every element seen in a dream. I didn’t know how much to trust their interpretation, but still gave it a read.

“To dream that you die in your dream symbolizes inner changes, transformation, self-discovery and positive development that is happening within you or your life. You are undergoing a transitional phase and are becoming more enlightened or spiritual. Although such a dream may bring about feelings of fear and anxiety, it is no cause for alarm as it is often considered a positive symbol. Dreams of experiencing your own death usually means that big changes are ahead for you. You are moving on to new beginnings and leaving the past behind. Metaphorically, dying can be seen as an end or a termination to your old ways and habits. So, dying does not always mean a physical death, but an ending of something. If you dream that someone is telling you that you are going die, then it implies that you are being pressured to make an important change or choice. You are about to embark on some new life adventure. 

On a negative note, to dream that you die may represent involvement in deeply painful relationships or unhealthy, destructive behaviors. You may feeling depressed or feel strangled by a situation or person in your waking life. Perhaps your mind is preoccupied with someone who is terminally ill or dying. Alternatively, you may be trying to get out of some obligation, responsibility or other situation. You are desperately trying to escape from the demands of your daily life.”

So, they gave both a positive and negative picture to the whole issue; leaving me confused even further. I tried to even see which aspect seems more appropriate to my current situation. But again, they both could be either definite or deceptive. I was in the midst of a new relationship, moving to a new place, adopting a new lifestyle; so for me the dream could mean either a positive or negative connotation.

I decided to go with my positive instinct, and believed that it signified a new beginning, a new journey, a new adventure. Firstly, because off-late every time I wake up from such a dream I call my boyfriend up and share it with him after which the dream doesn’t seem scary or eerie anymore, which could be interpreted as a beginning of a supportive and understanding relationship. Secondly, a bad dream might just be a positive premonition since it is not reality and one where I have the option of waking up from. So, however haunting or awkward my dream might be when I am asleep; the truth is life is only what I dream with my eyes open.

Why Travel?

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Journey to a new place, for me, is like the best kind of love affair; where you learn a new language to express your love, where you seize who you are, who you’re in love with, where sometimes lose track of where you’re going but still carry on for the thrill and adventure, and where with every journey begins a love story, some classic, some great and some which last forever. For all you know, it doesn’t even matter if the story has been written before, because no two love stories can ever be the same.

Journey to a foreign land, for me, is like a quest for the unknown, where we travel in search of both self and anonymity. We battle between who we are and who we should be, where we are and where we should be. We travel to lose ourselves, and sometimes to find ourselves. As Pico Iyer sagely puts it, ” What we find outside ourselves has to be inside ourselves for us to find it.”

So, when I ask myself, why do I want to see the world? Why is it essential to go to a place, and then why write about it later? My head says, “Because I want to examine different cultures, experience different lifestyles, explore different opportunities, embrace different moments.” While my heart says, “Because I just want to try and find a piece of myself everywhere I go to put together one day.” I would say, a tourist is merely a person who complains, “It’s not the same as in my country.” Whereas a traveler claims, “It’s not the same anywhere I go.” Traveling is not a just a hobby or holiday, it’s a way of life. For this life I would travel everywhere, anywhere, sometimes again, and sometimes even if it means falling in love over a 100 times.

Daily Prompt: Happily Ever After

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Ask most people what they want out of life and the answer is simple…to be happy. Maybe it’s this expectation though, the wanting to be happy, that just keeps us from ever getting there. Maybe the more we try and will ourselves to states of bliss, the more confused we get. To the point where we don’t recognize ourselves. Instead we just keep smiling, trying like hell to be happy people we wish we were.

I am very happy with my life. I am very happy with my journey till here as well. I have made mistakes, I have made bad decisions, I have had my downside but I am happy for it because that is what has got me to the state I am in at the moment. I used to constantly expect more from my life, I was never content with what I have ever. Every time I achieved something, the moment of happiness used to be short lived and time again think that I haven’t done much in my life. There is so much more to see, to know, to learn, to accomplish, how am I going to do all that? In the bargain I lost my happy moment lamenting over something yet to happen. Challenges definitely help me grow, become a better person, live a happier life. Only when I go ahead with a challenge do I realize the true motive of going through with it. And if I end up embracing a challenge for too long, not wanting to let go of the happy state. That’s when the happiness gets replaced by expectation and eventually remorse.

But now, I have realized that happiness is not in the number of challenges one takes or the tougher the challenges one is put through. Happiness is something that has been there all along, not in our dreams or hopes, but in the known, the comfortable, the familiar. Hence it is wrong to say, do what makes you happy. But instead say, live what keeps you happy.

 

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‘Cause today is a great day for falling in love

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My head spinning round and round,
All I wanna do is smile with just the thought of you being around,
I get the same feeling as when you set free a dove,
In love with this feeling of falling in love.
I seem to be dreaming all day long,
Humming away our favorite song,
My eyes stuck on the phone in front of,
In love with this feeling of falling in love.
When you whisper, “I love your smile”,
All I wish is that we wouldn’t be away by a 1000 miles,
Everything else seems so perfect, I observe,
In love with this feeling of falling in love.
The day I don’t talk to you makes me wonder,
Why is that my heart feels what it does under ??
As though my life’s taken a new curve,
In love with this feeling of falling in love.
I think I can tell you anything under the sun,
And you’ll still be by my side from dusk till dawn,
I wish this feeling remains forever,
But would love for it to grow even bigger,
In love with this feeling of falling in love.

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Silhouette

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Those were the days when chai’s and sutta’s were part of our blood stream.

Those were the days when we friends used to fight like siblings.

Those were the days that are now shadowed by our present.

Those were the days that have yet formed a silhouette in our lives forever.